Erin Rose

  Writer's Thoughts: Fun Fact Writer's Thoughts: Fun fact -- Being polyamorous does not mean having multiple partners or that a polaym person is out there having sex with multiple people. To be polyamorous is to have the capacity to develop close romantic, platonic, or queerplatonic, flirtationships, situationships, or comet relationships with multiple people. You're polyamorous whether you have 1 partner or 10 partners or no partners.  Polyamory is about the ability to love multiple people, not about whether or not you are currently involved in intimate relationships with multiple people. Read that again -- it's about the ABILITY TO... the freedom, the openness -- all of the things that monogamists tell you is wrong or not allowed in a relationship.  Polyamory = relationship based. Swinging = sex-based. Two different things, although you can be one, the other, or both, and there is some overlap in the lifestyles.

  A. I've personally read all of these and recommend them to anyone in any sort of ENM relationship as these were all recommended to me at some time or another over the years: The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy  Polysecure by Jessica Fern More Than Two   by Franklin Veaux Polyamory and Jealousy : More that Two Essentials Guide   I Hate You Don't Leave Me by Jerald J. Kreisman Designer Relationships by Mark Micheals (for all ENM LS) Alpha Female Bible by Michelle Martin (all types of relationships - the healthy kind for the more dominant woman)   Swingers Little Helper by Georiga Fuchs (for swingers) Unfuck Your Intimacy: Using Science for Better Relationship, Sex, and Dating by Faith G Harper PHd. Happy Life in an Open Relationship by Susan Wenzel B.This list I have not personally read but see them mentioned all the time in ENM groups: (I will try to update them as I read them) Building Open Relationships by Liz Powell (geared towards poly and swingers) In...